八卦有感

最近又是个八卦风盛行的时期:媒体爆出文章与姚笛婚外情,背叛马伊琍和两个孩子。

我一向对八卦无感。我想不明白各种粉丝或是路人为什么有那么多能量可以因为一件跟自己毫无关系的事情哭天抹泪、满嘴喷粪。网络上有太多的控诉,还有改编的各种段子。所有人都在转发一模一样的句子。当事人微博下的评论里永远有类似于“给我点赞好吗”之类的自high到爆的人,像个只会说“让我看到你们的双手好吗”的流行歌手。

我对这些不感兴趣一是因为我觉得明星确实跟我没关系。我不知道文章对马伊琍曾经有多好,也不知道文章说过什么经典语录,更从没把我对爱情的期许寄托在这对夫妇上。二是正好相反,我也会把明星当成普通人。普通人中,婚外情、离婚、包养、出轨这类的事太多了。我为什么闲的没事儿非要自发的把明星特殊化,然后再因为他没当成圣人而自己生闷气呢?文章第一波公关出来后——公关大意是经纪人说他俩只想当个普通人——底下的评论就开了花儿了。苦口婆心开始了:说文章啊,你挣钱时候不想当普通人了?出了事儿就要当普通人了?再说,我们普通人就也没出轨啊。

我去你大爷的。

高天发了朋友圈,我觉得说得挺好的:“我觉得别人如果做错了什么事,可以指正,但不该站在道德制高点上批斗。有时候你没有离经叛道可能仅仅是因为你没机会。”

我得说明的是,我从没有也从不想为文章开脱。他跟我没关系,我犯不着。而且婚外情这种事在道德上的意义所有正常人都明白。我只是在想,有多少男人在骂文章的同时在干着跟他同样的事而只是还没被揭穿。或者,有多少人可以拍着胸脯说,在几年婚姻之后,遇到年轻漂亮自己送上门的女人自己不会有任何举动。有多少女人,在爱的死去活来的时候,会存着有一天会上位或者甘愿不被发现的侥幸心理依旧死缠烂打而不是一刀两断?我相信有很多人会保证永远忠于自己、忠于另一方、忠于道德底线,我也相信很多人会做到这一点。但是,让我相信所有信誓旦旦的人太难了。因为这个社会就是这样,人类就是这样。欲望正好可以被诱惑填补。所以我不评论,不关注。我保证不了自己今后的所作所为,我只能尽力去做我认为对的事,但谁也没那么大的勇气去发誓他今后一定不会在某一时间头脑发热。

我记得上两任男朋友,在他们说着男人都会说的话的时候、对我们的感情寄予无限希望的时候,我总是对这些话不了了之。我跟他们说,不是我不相信你,也不是不相信爱情,而是我不相信我自己。虽然看上去是句对感情很不负责任的狗屁话,但是我的出发点只是想对自己的言行负责。我无法说出存在于将来的承诺,我无法控制我未来的大脑,我无法预知周遭环境什么时候发生变化。

人们总是对美好的未来期望太多,而作为务实派的摩羯座,有些人群情激昂的话在我眼里还不如不说。有点跑题了。想说的是,与其对以后的日子天马行空,不如兢兢业业地经营当下。与其把花好月圆的愿景寄托在十万八千里以外的两个不是普通人的普通人身上,不如踏踏实实自己找个男/女朋友,结个婚,好好瞅瞅爱情和责任是个什么东西。

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